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At 3:27 am last Friday morning, I woke and sat straight up in bed, asking “What’s Michelle Obama’s book called?”

In November of 2018, my coach Jim Fortin asked challenged us to do something beyond our comfort zone. There was a list of which all but one bored me. I’ve hugged strangers, laid down in public, test-driven expensive cars. I’ve been kissed by a giraffe (wait, that wasn’t on the list).

What made me most, deeply, throw-up-feeling-ish, avoidant, “scared” – plainly uncomfortable was to share, publically, my deepest fear.

Think about that for a hot sec.

Deep, deep, deep profoundly aching fear. What is that? Or better yet, can I even get to it, particularly without over-intellectualizing?

I spent days in mind and heart going through what felt like the biggest card catalog (I know, dates me as a pre-internet library-studying student):

Being abandoned. Nope.
Being abused. Nope.
Being poor. Nope.
Dying/death. Nah.
Guns. A little, but a different topic.

Trapped in a small, confining, dark space. Eew. Maybe.

There! That *pinged* a strong resonance… The trapped thing. Stuck. Never getting out. Not being able to move. Stagnant.  EEW.

Not BEing able to BE FREE. Not evolving.
Not BEing about to SEE.

NOT BEING FREE TO BECOME more than a tight, constricted, small sense of myself.

Because of circumstance, perceptions, habits, conditionings, beliefs.

My deepest fear was not BECOMING.

Not BECOMING the vision that I’ve seen for myself for a very, very, very long time. 

Why? That’s a natural question to ask.
But wait…
Why what? Why the fear or why haven’t I “becomed”, yet?

Both equally good questions.

And on that November day, while wearing my stripped Carhartt hat (it is such a comfort cap), I told my coaching tribers of my fear – on video(!). And then my lover husband. And then my BFFs.

Each time I felt a sense of EXPANSION because I. Took. Responsibility.
And once again, there was that reminder that I am the bravest person I know – to BE. With each outing of BEing, I was RESTORING the landscape of MEing.

And on that November day, my 2019 word was gifted to me: BECOMING.

Becoming to me is about risking all the comforts to EVOLVE. It’s about dropping or questioning all that I’ve known in order to strip away the false, no-longer-serving “truths” to just BE. To become the fullest, most aligned, deepestly satisfied BEing. It is living my most restored, plugged in, CREATIVE, joyfilled, playful, sacred nature.

COUNT ME IN!
I’M COMING OUT – I want the world to know... TO PLAY!

Welcome to my BEcoming season.

There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. – Shauna Niequist

“But wait!” Demands logical brain as it reaches for the brake lever and sounds the chitter chatter crap-ola alarm of “new territory alert”.

“How can you possibly take risks when you have so much responsibility? As a mother, care ambassadress, wife, friend, long-standing biz owner? What do you mean, BECOMING? More wild? Or more settled? What is this nonsense? What does any of this have to do with being a garden designer?”

How’d I respond to that mind sh&^?

Here’s a hint: I am becoming both wild and settled – at the same time – because I am my own RESTORATIVE LANDSCAPE, my own sacred, brave ecosystem, my very own Sanctuary – from the inside out.

How about you?
How are you designing your BECOMING?

Stay tuned for my next quarterly ezine on designing BEcoming. Make sure to sign up for my newsletter to follow along and be the first to know when the next issue of the emagazine is on the stacks!

Yes, some of the vocab was created just for this creative writing project. It feels very becoming, don’t you think?

If there ever was a plant more suited for life cycle lessons, it would be the flower bulb. Metaphors aplenty, the flower bulb is THE biggest ROI – a harbinger of hope and promise of seasonal transition while being the easiest to grow. Designing and planting bulbs is an act of rebellion against the weight of anxiety and heaviness that can freak and fraught the mind. And it is not just the visible beauty that soothes. Knowing those positivity warriors are out there standing by for their perfect timing to bloom for our garden hearts’ revival, feels good.

Working quietly underground, bulbs are like Light-ening rods of hope. You are planting your de-light bulbs this season, yes?

Over the years and many, many landscape installations of spring bulbs, I’ve developed a method to the gladness of planning bulb displays well: maps, codes, flags, giggles, teamwork, reliable supplier, more giggles.

 

Designer’s Tip: Make a copy of your landscape plan (or map) yearly to chronicle a bulb name code and respective locations. This will help you remember the where and “outfits” of your bulb babies. I do this process in tandem with ordering while preparing my coded flags.

Colorblends is my go-to supplier for bulbs. Ordering online is made easy and the bulb stock exemplary. Use the note field to include your code AND keep order history so you know what you bought and planting code. Even bulbly better is their outstanding customer service which goes a long way when making outdoor spaces that help people feel good inside.

So, what spring de-lights are you planting?

This is an excerpt from our Fall 2018 Red Bird  ri-ˈstȯr-ə-tiv Magazine. 
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January, oh, January. Such a straddle of seasons. You, dear January, are so full of “new”. You give us the opportunity with all that “resolution” business and fresh start stuff to be mindful of our heart’s desires, our “original nature” – our ZEN of being more present right here, right now. 

So we’ve packed away our outdoor holiday dressings and decor and entered the New Year. Our outdoor living spaces have gone from looking like a living holiday greeting card to containers laid bare. The quieting scene outside reminds of the importance of dormancy and honoring the season we are in (yes, yes).

Yet, for those of us who take nourishment from our #serenegreenscene, we’re hungry for a little foliiferous planting design snack to hold us over. One that offers that important calming benefit, with a dash of delightful with a side of beautiful. You know, restorative.  

These little container gardens keep us aware. They are mini Healing Garden Happy Places that invite us to focus right here, right now. They are a respite during what some call the “bluest month” of the year. There’s a peace, grounding and ZEN practice in connecting with nature outside and our true nature inside.

So what to do this January for those bare containers? Pick plants, ZEN-fully!

10 Zen Plants for Your New Year Containers for that design resetting you crave.

You’ll notice a theme. Where there are blooms, expect the color to be white (with 1 exception). My design instincts assign white to the month of January.  Its appeal of brightness that uplifts and the symbology of the color (purity, starting new, fresh and clean), makes white a perfect choice.

There’s more to these 10 Zen plants than what meets the eye:

  1. All of these plant lovelies may function as a “2-fer” for you! What’s that?

    Red Bird container design process: invest once, benefit twice. I design plants for client containers that, when time, can be moved into the landscape. 

  2. These 10 Zen have been selected using a Restorative Garden Plant Selection value rating. How’s that?

    Design psychology evidence shows when plants have certain wellness characteristics, they are considered boosters to our healing and recovery process. That’s where your “Zen” comes in. These plants are not only beautiful, but they come with mind, body, soul benefits too!

For each plant listed, I’ve used Red Bird’s Restorative Garden Plant Selection value rating method for selecting plants to boost the restorativeness of your garden. I’ve also included a link directly to the plant for information (in most cases to Monrovia’s reliable website).

Cliff notes version: more icons = higher Restorative Garden Plant value of the plant and greater pleasure and benefit for you.

I love the playfulness of this fringy flower that dance across the branches of this shrub come spring. Meanwhile, in the winter container, she plays the role of a terrific diva. A little on deciduous action may occur. No matter as the shape is lovely to rest your eyes upon, given her silhouette. I find that no two plants have anywhere near the same shape, really, with this specimen which is very exciting.

Evergreen clematis vine comes staked ready to trail. Plant in a pot that sits against a blank wall. Up and over and along it’ll go, vigorous, once establish, and a take no prisoners beautification machine. With blooms of white in February/March (depending on weather) and fragrance that is heady, this plant could easily be an evergreen stand-in for Wisteria. Telling the time of year with its perfumed blossoms in early, early spring, this plant also relays the truth about its micro-micro growing conditions (read: “feet in shade, head in the sun”).

If there was ever a green machine sheen plant to swoon over, it just might be this one. I use this plant in my shady containers for the evergreen appeal as well as the arching form of the branches. Now, a bonus (for some) is the fragrance. Often I tell my clients that come late, late winter into early, early spring, you’ll step out onto your patio and smell a divine fragrance forcing you to look high and low for the source. It’s this plant, quietly doing its thing with tiny white flowers.  Upon its graduation from your container, it dancing nicely with a shady, dry garden.

Here’s your quintessential “specimen form” often mentioned in design publications.  Dwarf Pagoda Japanese Holly is upright, remarkable with the loveliest, small, dark leaves and absolutely irregular in branching structure. This ain’t your red berry holly. Stays evergreen and so little care required – my goodness, very statuesque and could be a solo element, should you dig the minimalism approach.

Dramatic, moody, rich. That’s Black Mondo Grass. And strappy both in appearance and in function. This grass is so helpful in filling out the base of a container and offering a rich contrast to more diva-like plants. There’s an exotic flair to this baby and best planted in groupings to really get the full visual benefit.

This is a low, evergreen, golden grass-like plant that brightens the day and the edges of containers. And because we get a lot of rain (and apparently snow too), this plant can hang with wet soils. When you’re ready move it from the pot to areas along wet woodlands or ponds.  In container design, the very nostalgic part of me pairs this plant with white pansies.

White blooming right now! Jacob hellebore is my fav. These blooms are so happy they sit upright as though to smile back at you. And this is THE white that I compare all other whites against. Pure, clean, fresh. Bonus: deer and rabbit resistant!

Hens and chicks will be your carpet or groundcover in your containers. There is so much versatility when it comes to Sempervivum. Look over your choices closely and consider if you want color change with new growth or with the weather’s chill. When I tire of these in containers, I pop ’em right into the ground as a sweet little accent here and there.  You’ll want to look for hens and chicks grown by Little Prince of Oregon.

Newer in my repertoire is this rhododendron. What draws me to this plant is the variegated leaf which provides pop in the gray days of winter. This gal blooms in spring and can get quite large, so keep an eye on her in your container and invite a friend over to assist with the transfer to the garden when time. I love this plant is like shoulder pads and is a container pop-stop!

Like the annual primrose, this perennial shares its pop of (white) color on ruffled leaves. Well, the blooms are little, white, happy, fragrant candelabras of flowers. A perfect plant for containers that don’t dry out quickly and to repurpose in an area where it can hang out in wet soil and naturalize. Think: shady dells of England…

Here’s what to do next:

Download my Secret Decoder Ring for Restorative Garden Plant Selection here.

Use the Secret Decoder Ring when selecting plants for your special space. (Yes! Carry it with you for those trips to the retail garden store. It’ll help with impulsive plant shopping and narrow down all the pretties to those that will really rally to renew you.)

Remember: choose for the beauty AND the benefit to boost the Restorative Power of your garden.

Oh! And share your favorite zen plants in the comment section below.